Dating a younger coworker
where I list the five biggest downsides to dating a coworker that people often don’t think about when they’re in the grip of a new romance.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!The Respect You Get is Criminally Underrated I don’t need the red carpet rolled out for me, but a common lament amongst my male and female friends is that the majority of the people we date tend to keep everyone they date on the backburner, constantly looking out for the next best thing.Which has led to dating being something more like a high school reenactment of Waiting for Godot rather than any sort of clarity on where you stand with the person who bought you drinks the week prior.
And though I spent far too much time while we were dating worrying about appearances despite my male friends assurances that “older women are hot! And in talking to friends on all sides of the aisle, it looks like I’m not alone — dating young, even for all the jokes about MILFs and dirty old men, has some very compelling benefits. Handcuffs fell into that category; while I’d been lightly tied up before, never with any real efficacy that didn’t immediately dissolve into general rolling around.
” (file that one under ‘not helpful advice to tell a woman on her birthday), dating Jake , young, young Jake, turned out to be the best thing I could do for my dating life, my sex life, and my self confidence. After a quick trip to the Halloween store, I had procured a cheap pair of handcuffs; one Snapchat and two hours later, Jake and I were laughing our way through the fact that I thought kids’ metal handcuffs sure to lacerate my arteries were the best way to explore.
What the handcuffs did lead to, though, was my own realization that the younger your partner, the more open they are to being Good, Giving, and Game — noted sex therapist Dan Savage’s theory that the best sex comes from partners being kind, generous, and up to try anything.
There’s Less Pressure on Your Coupledom I may be accidentally writing the book on Peter Pan syndrome here, but the older you get, the more pressure new relationships have right away to be “real” relationships — full of day dates to the farmer’s market, cooking dinners at home together, and picking out sheet sets at Bed, Bath and Beyond. But it skips over one of my favorite parts of dating: doing a bunch of dirty, drunk shit together until you’re no longer embarrassed of each other.
While I respect people that enter into adult relationships with aplomb, there’s something to be said for being comfortable enough to make drunken mistakes and have whiskey soaked fights that I would say makes for stronger relationships.