Dating someone with social anxiety
When your date starts to become a serious romantic partner, it’s time to discuss the role of social anxiety in the relationship.
If you haven’t already raised the issue, think about making it an addendum during one of those inevitable relationship conversations: exclusivity, becoming official, what to say on Facebook, etc.
At 20 years old, I moved to another country to live with my first love and ultimately my first heartbreak.
He was my best friend for a year before we got together, so I thought if anything was going to work, then this would be it because it was based on friendship.
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, when you’re just learning the ins and outs of each other, an anxiety disorder might feel like a foreign concept. When situations get overwhelming, someone with anxiety might need their own space. No two people with anxiety are the same, and there are different types of anxiety disorders.
I was also knee deep in my battle with anorexia again and this time bulimia had decided to join the party, so that was one part of it.
By trying to overcome social anxiety without any “liquid courage” — or whatever else — you can work toward making your mental health issues less of a hindrance to your romantic life.
Handicaps will only prevent you from growing as a person, and obviously drinking or drugs are some of the worst methods of coping.
Gordon Brewer advised clients to talk about how they become nervous when they are around many strangers.
People with social anxiety can tell their dates they would initially prefer to spend time as a couple or with friends, Brewer said.