Glamour online dating
It just felt long because I wasn't comfortable being single—and I wasn't comfortable being single because I just hadn't allowed myself to be.
Even when I wasn't dating anyone, I was to date someone.
Meeting people IRL is totally possible If you had told me this a year ago, I probably would've responded, "Yeah, is possible—but it sure ain't likely." In a world where two potential matches could be in the same bar and not notice each other because they're both swiping around on Tinder, it feels like online is the only place to meet someone.
But people had relationships before dating apps existed and—surprise! It took a little while, but when I was putting less energy into scoping out prospects on dating apps, I had more time for parties, spontaneous encounters, and other ways to meet people.
Those swipes can seriously affect your self-esteem With fewer avenues to receive validation about my attractiveness, I sincerely began to believe my looks had declined (at the tender age of 25, I know).
Of course, nothing about me had changed, so this line of reasoning didn't actually make any sense.
Online dating is addictive Right after I decided to stop going on OKCupid, I actually had to stop my hands from typing the "o" into my browser when I wanted a work break (OK I slipped up a few times, I'll admit it).
Dating sites can cause major anxiety A recent study in found that phone addiction causes depression and anxiety, and in my experience, online dating addiction has the same effects.
When you rely on something for self-esteem or excitement, you feel disappointed when you don't see these rewards and you withdraw from other sources of happiness.
During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.
I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.
It's like gambling: The hope of winning is so strong and motivating, you don't even realize you're losing most of the time.4.