How far is too far in christian dating
If you haven’t asked that question in relation to Christian dating, you’ve probably thought of it. If THINKING of kissing Scarlet Johansson is adultery then what is cuddling on a chair with my girlfriend? God says no immoral people will have a share of heaven (1st Corinthians 6:9) In that list of immoral people, adulterers exists.
Ernest, how far is too far in terms of physical affection in a Christian relationship? Let me define HOLY as the Bible does in several contexts. When the Israelites left Egypt God required them to be holy i.e. If you look at that verse in Ephesians, you discover that there are 2 things that fight holiness- sexual immorality and greed. I want to assume the hint of sexual immorality to be a mere thought. Yet even a thought of kissing a woman who isn’t my wife Jesus says in Matthew is adultery. GOD is clear when he says that sexual immorality is unholy and thus it is SIN. If a tot of strong poison was placed in your cup of juice, would you drink it? If a tablespoon of the same strong poison was put in the juice would you still take it? If only a teaspoon of the deadly poison was put, now would you take it? Both are sin and will receive the same punishment from GOD.
(We knew early on that we would get married.) I didn’t feel that I needed to set that boundary, but he did so I honored that.
These are modest boundaries and so uncommon today, but I am still young.
Just believe me when I tell you that oral sex, anal sex, breast sex, and penis in vagina sex are all sex, and it is my conviction that all of them are behaviors that are completely inappropriate outside of a committed marital relationship.
Q – My question is how far is too far in a relationship, that is not marriage? If I were to re-phrase the question it could basically be “How far can I go until I do something that will harm the other person or myself?
Boundary 2: If my physical behavior is something I will be embarrassed to tell my husband about some day, I won’t do it.
Bible says in 1st Corinthians that there’s no temptation too big that GOD can’t help you overcome. The love from Christ is stronger than sex or money. Those movies that end with unmarried people kissing in the rain or sunset have good reason to end there. GOD’s plan for sex is great with pleasure you’ve never imagined, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I also have unmarried friends and they’ve told me too. Imagine sex as a chocolate bar to give to your husband or wife on your honeymoon night. If you cannot wait to eat the chocolate bar, will you exercise control when you are married?
But if you find yourself desiring to pursue the sensuality and not give Jesus a fighting chance, you should be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you are really born again. You can fool Ernest, you can fool the pastor but between you and GOD, you know whether you are really going to heaven or hell fire. We think a kiss will be as magical as Cinderella yet it leaves the girls used and abused. Because after that one kiss is a lifetime of pain and regret. You actually believe that one night stands leave you smiling and boasting to your friends the next day. You have sex in GOD’s timing and it’s something indescribable. Then imagine before the wedding night, you start nibbling bits of it. If you can’t resist till marriage, you will not resist when another woman who is not your wife seduces you after you are married.
You will need to evaluate who you are and develop your own set of guidelines based on what works for you Boundary 1: If it isn’t seen in a bathing suit, it isn’t touched.
This avoided all confusion about whether oral sex was OK or if it was OK for my boyfriend to fondle my breasts.